A portrait shows what something looks like. This is an attempt to display a godly wife by our friends at the Association of Biblical Counselors.
A godly wife submits to the headship of her husband as ordained by God, knowing that even as she does so, she is really submitting to God. She recognizes that the freest place she can be is under the authority of her husband. She “brings her husband good and not evil all the days of his life.” When her husband is in error before the Lord, she seeks to win him over by her behavior and Christ–likeness, rather than by nagging, complaining, or other verbal means. She does not grudgingly minister to her husband but does so joyfully and heartily.
“A GODLY WIFE PRAYS DILIGENTLY FOR HER HUSBAND AND CHILDREN.”
A godly wife is industrious and creative, making the most of the family’s resources to provide abundantly for the needs of her children and husband. She raises her children to respect her and their father and to honor God. She prays diligently for her husband and children. She is ruled by the word of God rather than her own emotions, desires, or her own ideas about the ways things “should be.” She walks in close fellowship with the Lord and is ruled by the Spirit of God rather than her own flesh. Her life reflects the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians 5.
“A GODLY WIFE WALKS IN CLOSE FELLOWSHIP WITH THE LORD AND IS RULED BY THE SPIRIT OF GOD RATHER THAN HER OWN FLESH.”
She realizes her body is not hers alone but also her husbands, and she shares it with him in joyful lovemaking on a regular basis. She looks not only to her own interests but also to the interests of her husband. Her husband is able to have full confidence in her. Her behavior brings her husband respect. She is a helper to him in many areas, using her own particular gifts and training to benefit the family. She has a gentle and quiet spirit that makes her beautiful in the eyes of God. She uses her speech to build up and encourage her husband in the faith. She is not critical of her husband to him or to others. She is ruled by a fear of the Lord.